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Why does anxiety show up when it does? A dive into our internal dams which can lead to pressure building up.

There is a part of parenting that often takes people by surprise. It is the way it reshapes our social world. Before children, most of us spent time with people we naturally connected with. We chose friends, colleagues, groups and conversations that suited who we were. If someone drained us, unsettled us or brought out a version of ourselves we did not like, we could quietly step away. Then parenting arrives. And suddenly, choice feels much smaller. Children make their own fr

There is a quiet shift happening in the therapy world. More platforms are offering fast access and low cost support, with sessions that are short and frequent and therapists who are encouraged to work at high volume. These services are often marketed as efficient solutions for a busy life. The message is simple. Faster is better. Cheaper is better. Convenience is king. Yet something happens when therapy is shaped around speed and scale. The space begins to narrow. The rhythm

Life moves at a pace that leaves very little room for us to catch up with ourselves. We drift from task to task, conversation to conversation, thought to thought. Most of the time we do not notice how quickly the days carry us forward. The movement becomes normal. The speed becomes expected. Then something interrupts the flow. It might be a cancelled plan, a delayed train, an early morning when the house is still quiet, or simply a moment when we no longer have anything to di

There are rules we follow without realising we agreed to them. Be kind . Do not make a fuss. Stay strong. Stay polite. Keep moving. Most of these rules are old, so old we no longer remember where they came from. Yet they shape the way we show up in the world every day. We notice them in small moments. When we say yes, even though something inside us leans towards no. When we swallow a feeling because we do not want to appear difficult. When we tell ourselves that exhaustion

I have come to think of approaching AI as holding a door. It can stay closed, open just a little, or swing wide to let everything rush in. Most days, it feels most helpful when it stays slightly ajar. AI can offer direction, but it does not need to take the lead. It works best as a tool that supports what has already been chosen, not as the compass that decides for us. In therapeutic work, reflection and awareness form the centre of the process. Yet even in this deeply human

In seconds, the feeling that was beginning to rise is drowned in a flood of movement, colour and sound. Scroll, swipe, like, refresh. It feels like connection, stimulation, reassurance.

Understanding the Therapy Process Many people come to therapy with a specific question or difficulty in mind. They often seek to fix, understand, or finally let go of something that has been troubling them. Yet, once the conversation begins, something unexpected often emerges. We might start by discussing work stress and find ourselves delving into childhood patterns. We may enter the room thinking about a relationship, only to discover that the real story lies in how we rela

When I first encountered the idea of exploring my inner world through therapy, I was both curious and cautious. The thought of delving into past experiences and unconscious feelings felt like opening a door to a room I had long avoided. Yet, as I learned more about the benefits of psychodynamic approach, I realised it offered a gentle, yet profound way to understand myself better and create lasting change. This approach is not about quick fixes or surface-level solutions. Ins

When we think about healing and personal growth, the mind’s eye can be a powerful ally. Visualisation techniques in therapy offer a gentle yet effective way to explore emotions, confront fears, and foster change. I have found that these methods invite us to step into a calm space within ourselves, where transformation can begin quietly but surely. Like a soft light guiding us through a dark room, visualisation helps illuminate the path to deeper understanding and lasting chan

When I think of what brings up feelings of fear, I think of risks or dangers on either a physical or emotional level. I was browsing through a children’s book on emotions recently and in the section on fear, there was a point about how fear can be useful. There were a number of examples given and all of which were about how fear can protect us from physically injuring oneself (e.g. fear of burning yourself would prevent you from touching something hot or fear of tripping on s

Psychodynamic therapy seeks to explore, together with the therapist, what might be driving the obstacles that you face today. This type of therapy has at its core an understanding that much of our behaviour is driven by what we are not presently aware of, namely, our unconscious. What is Psychodynamic Therapy? Exploring unconscious processes and past experiences is in the foreground in psychodynamic therapy. Our early lives were once all we ever knew and would have become our

When anxiety levels are high, the body is more tense and its resources are used up more quickly. The body is working extra hard to survive at these times. Eating healthily and exercising are obviously going to help, but when moods are low and anxiety is high, we tend to be doing more running from ourselves. It can feel like an uphill climb to be focusing on caring for ourselves at these times. If this is the case, it can be beneficial to consider easier options which feel mor

It's a misconception that the reasons leading up to therapy and that attending therapy itself are linked in any way to weaknesses. When we were little ones, in whatever circumstances we were presented with, in many ways, we would have learned to "pull ourselves together". There are many ways that a child can do this. A child eventually becomes tired from acting out, not being seen or heard and not getting what we wanted or at times, needed and eventually the coping mechanisms

Whether it is a divorce and/or a child-related case, it is not uncommon today to find oneself in the UK family courts. Walking through this unfamiliar territory, on top of the wholly justified emotions involved in separation, divorce and children, those unwanted feelings of anger, fear and sadness are all very common. There is often little readily available to support the mental wellbeing of those going through this process. When it comes to the formal and rigid formalities o

When communicating what's going on within ourselves, it can be hard to find the words. This is perfectly understandable because our internal experiences are so intangible. It is very common for clients in therapy to find themselves feeling quite muted, often saying that they can't find their words or that they don't know where to start. How can we find the verbal bridges to help connect the internal and the external worlds? Something that works well in my practice is to visua

When we find ourselves in a position where things just can't continue as they are, we might turn to therapy. The decision has been made and, after trawling through the numerous modalities and profiles, the therapist has been selected. You walk into the room for the first session and, committing to Britain's great knack of putting smalltalk to good use, fill the space with a well-meaning "how are you?" to the therapist. The therapist smiles, but says...nothing. What on earth i

Intrusions into the conscious mind, whether from everyday life or the unconscious, can deliver a real sense of danger. It is coming from a system designed to protect us, but can often leave us feeling quite unprotected in everyday life, especially with external pressures that necessitate having to push on. This sense of danger can instil a panicked feeling with racing thoughts. The heart can pound so heavily that we can at times actually hear its thumping rhythm. We might fin